Nir Eyal – How This Dad Teaches Us How To Become Indistractable
#68: Nir Eyal - How This Dad Teaches Us How To Become Indistractable
"I believe becoming indistractable is really going to be the skill of the century."
-Nir Eyal, Best-Selling Author and Dad talks about how to help our kids become indistractable.
In today's conversation, you'll learn 3 key things:
- Why becoming indistractable will be the skill of the century
- How to talk with your kids about technology
- Why self-compassion is so important for Dads
Clip: How To Raise Your Kids To Be Indistractable
Watch Time: 1 minute
YouTube Link:
https://youtu.be/N6vgb_CaFqg
Nir Eyal: If you think the world is a distracting place today, just wait a few years, it’s only going to get more distracting.
I remember when my daughter was much younger, some of her first words were “iPad time, iPad time!” and I know this a struggle a lot parents have.
– How much tech?
– Which tech?
– Is tech bad for them?
I think it’s important to take a research-based approach vs a fear-based approach.
Clip: How do you remove things from your plate?
Watch Time: 2 minutes
YouTube Link:
https://youtu.be/d0dcHdU8sZ4
Rob: This question was sent in from Dan Whalen, he asks:
“As a working dad there are so many things on my plate. Our phones connect us to our commitments, but force us to multi-task.
How do you remove things from your plate? How does that help you become a better Dad?”
Nir: The tool that will change your life is a schedule maker. Here’s a link to a free schedule maker I created that you can use:
https://www.nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/
Put everything on your calendar. You’re giving yourself the gift of learning what is traction, and what is distraction.
Now you can do something about the distractions that keep coming up.
Rob: Jesse Itzler said the same thing on this podcast. He carries around a giant calendar to remind him.
Clip: Advice for Parents: Be Vulnerable with Your Kids
Watch Time: 3 minutes
YouTube Link:
https://youtu.be/t8ikZlQ-ao0
Nir: If there’s one advice I could give parents out there, it’s: “Be vulnerable with your kids.”
Let them know that you’re struggling with this stuff too.
LISTEN TO NIR’S DAD TIP
Sponsored by: KickstartReading.com
Watch Time: 1 minute
YouTube Link:
https://youtu.be/KplneDAy4qU
Nir: A lot of Dads are like me in that we beat ourselves up all the me. We’re our own worst critics.
I used to have this dialogue all the time. And it’s not helpful.
If there’s one skill I think we can all learn is self-compassion.
The way to do this, a good rule of thumb is:
Only talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good buddy.
Thank you Nir, for teaching us how we can become (and help our kids become)…indistractable.
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